You love them and they leave you!! Not enough, they leave you questioning your self-worth!!
Is it happening on repeat? Are you choosing the wrong people? Your energies are attracting the wrong people!!
Sit calmly and think it through. You will see a pattern you have been following whenever you feel you are in love.
Now answer the following questions about yourself:
1. Where do you meet them?
2. How do you approach or how do they approach you?
3. What are the things you notice in them?
4. How long does it take you to conclude your feelings?
5. How do you pursue your feelings?
6. Do you give them space to exactly understand what they feel for you?
7. Do you make them your centre of the universe?
8. Do you forgive their mistakes easily?
9. Do you feel secure?
10. Do you feel the rest of your life is getting affected because of their presence or absence?
You will know yourself while answering these questions honestly.
Yes, they were not the wrong people, either we allowed them in our lives ignoring the red flags or craved for them to be there and then followed our ‘unhealthy’ attachment style.
Love is beautiful and healthy only in moderation, within boundaries, and with self-awareness.
There is a thin line between love and fitoor.
If you truly feel attached to them, make sure it is not unhealthy for either of you.
Give them time, space, and a chance to reflect on their own emotions before pouring them with your love.
•Aafreen
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